As a parent, seeing your son or daughter happy and successful is paramount. You spent the last 18 years imparting your wisdom, nurturing their talents, and fostering their independence. Now they are off to college, where even the most accomplished high school student will encounter new challenges. In fact, studies show that college is challenging for almost all students:
- 85% feel stressed on a daily basis, mostly about school work and grades
- 87% don’t get enough sleep to feel rested
- 60% take 4.5 to 7 years to graduate, costing tens of thousands of dollars
The good news is that there are steps you can take to help your student adjust to college life and make sure they get the most out of the experience.
Figure out what matters most: Ask your student what they hope to get out of college and you’ll likely be met with a shoulder shrug. Freshmen lack the perspective you have, so encourage them to ask the tough questions. Getting clarity on what they want out of college will help them focus on what matters most. Is international experience, and thus study abroad, important? Are varsity sports and club leadership top priority? Clarity can be hard for students to achieve, but conversations that focus on your student’s core strengths, values and vision for the future are a good starting point.
Develop a plan for success: Your student wants to do it all and will be tempted to overload their calendar with exciting new activities. Help your student develop a plan that maps out their goals – even at a high level - the paths to achieve them and milestones along the way. If they do bite off too much, the plan can serve as a guide to prioritize efforts. You can jump start this process with them before school starts, but may need to hand-off the planning to another trusted resource.
Find someone to be a sounding board: You will continue to be an important outlet for your student, but most freshmen also need someone they can turn to for unbiased advice and support. Help identify this sounding board in your student’s life – it could be a friend, coach, mentor or other relative. Encourage them to reach out for support frequently.
You want the best for your student but guiding them from afar can be a challenge. Consider organizations with expertise in student coaching, such as InsideTrack. InsideTrack has worked with over 250,000 college students nationwide and is the nation’s most comprehensive program for ensuring student happiness and success in college and beyond. Their staff of College Experts will work with your student one-on-one to develop a tailor-made plan for success, identify what matters most and find balance in the first year. Learn more and get a free session with a College Expert.



